Personal Alarms

Until you’re faced with a moment of crisis, it’s difficult to know how you’ll react. Years of conditioned responses go unnoticed until they fail you. It may be a major public crisis such as an earthquake or it could be a personal event that throws you into a tailspin. Crisis rarely gives us time to think through our choices and evaluate the best scenario. What feels right or is a knee jerk reaction may have worked in the past, but today it could leave you feeling helpless. The question is, months later, have you recovered from the trauma?

  • Do you want to say NO! but find yourself saying yes because you’re exhausted?
  • Do you need to make a decision but get more confused when you think about your options?
  • Slow down. There isn’t always a need to anticipate the crisis that lurk behind the doors.

There was a study done with monkeys. Meet Julio, one of those monkeys. He loves blackberry juice.

slate.com-Power of Habit excerpt

Wolfram Schultz, a professor of neuroscience at the University of Cambridge was working on a study of craving. A monkey named Julio was wired with electrodes to track his brainwaves. He was wiggly and hated sitting still. Until. The computer screen beside him displayed squiggles and shapes. Julio knew exactly which ones to touch. Touch them in the right order and he’ll get blackberry juice. His brainwaves showed his delight. After doing this same action for a bit Julio’s brainwaves didn’t wait for the sequence to be pushed or the juice to drop down, they spiked in anticipation. He was excited to touch the screen because he knew he’d get his reward.

Our brains go through the same response when we anticipate either pain, loss or rewards. If you know your boss is going to yell at you, your body goes on alert. You prepare yourself by preparing your thoughts, maybe even decide if you’re going to take it today. Maybe you have your exit strategy in hand. And these things build up. Maybe he doesn’t yell every day. It’s possible he just picks at you daily. Or some days he compliments your work and then others he tears you down in a group meeting. In any of those scenarios, you’re prepared for a battle. Your alarm is now set to go off at the slightest negative vibration. Like the runner waiting for the starting cue, you’re ready. Yes I’ve been there. Did I mention that this stuff builds up?

If you’ve been through serious trauma, whether it was continual or sudden, you’re personal alarm system may be too sensitive, causing you to be too alert. It could also be shutdown to protect you from caring. Either way you may need some help finding a healthy balance. Counselling, yoga, meditation or even talking to someone you trust can help. Sometimes you don’t realize how much pain you’ve held until you have a breakdown.

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Don’t Try This At Home

When is it too much? How do I know if I’m over-correcting?

I have had Migraines since I was a girl, elementary school age. Very much like the commercial that says “If you have migraines, then you know pain.” I hate that commercial by the way. No amount of aspirin and caffeine or acetaminophen and caffeine will take away a migraine. You might as well go sniff a jar of vapor menthol or rub it on your feet. Seriously? I’ve tried many home remedies, vitamin therapies, acupuncture and herbal remedies.

Yesterday I found something new. At least it seemed new at that moment. It’s the neck theory. The cause of my suffering is because my head is big and my neck is weak. According to the Texas Migraine Clinic. My headaches don’t exactly fit the profile that he describes, such as starting around 2:00 in the afternoon, but I can sometimes lessen the pain be lying on my stomach and turning my head to the side. I’m game for trying new things, so I did one of the exercises that he suggested. OOPS! I strained my neck. I’m an overachiever.

But migraines aren’t the true point of my post, just the digression. Over-correcting is my point. In my effort to make improvements or even to adjust my life, I sometimes make things worse. It throws me into a panic sometimes when things go wrong. I’m still learning to let things gradually adjust. How do I know when something needs fixed verses needing an adjustment. Or when do I leave well enough alone?

If I’m in a panic, even if something needs correction, I need to wait. If I’m in a panic, my view of life is skewed. Distorted. Warped. Waiting a while is my better choice. Breathing and sitting with the fear of falling all the way to the bottom. What if I allowed the horrible bad thing to happen? Life should come with a warning label saying, Trying too hard could break something. It’s like the nail head that you hit just one more time so it’s good and hammered.

  • If it feels forced it probably is
  • Steady effort is effective also
  • Youthful exuberance has it’s place
  • So does sound advice from the experienced
  • Live and learn
  • If you don’t get it right the first time, do it again.

The only time panic serves me well is during a true crisis. If action needs to take place immediately or someone needs  an ambulance, I’m your huckleberry. The rest of the time, I need to calm down and sit down. Thinking clearly is using all of your instincts for the best benefit. Too much hammering breaks the nail. Cranking a nut too tightly can break it. Tight is good enough.

Alive and Well

yellow flowerYes, I am alive and well.

I almost put that I was alive and blooming, but the picture of flowers popping up all over my head didn’t fit my mood. To demonstrate my mood and what this site is about I will include a video link. I hope you enjoy it!

http://www.vevo.com/watch/onerepublic/feel-again/USUV71201233?source=instantsearch#