Trauma is like wearing someone else’s corrective glasses. You can’t see clearly. It can feel as if you’re still piecing yourself back together, every sound and sight echoing the remnants of what once was. We need to heal before seeing the truth. #trauma

Signs of faulty glasses 

• When seeing through trauma eyes, I see my hurts. 
• I will speak about my pain as if was inflicted upon me. 
• Usually there’s a person or group I mention frequently who has harmed me. 
• Difficulty letting go of the mental tie to that 

How to heal 

Whenever we find ourselves overreacting to a situation, it’s often a sign that we’re responding to deeper pain. Those old trauma wounds resurface, taking the reins of our emotions and reactions.

“Why did I say that? I sounded so immature.”

Take a deep breath, ask for forgiveness if you can, and go forward. 

• Notice the moments of pain-flare ups
• Pay attention to the emotions of that scene in your head. What story are you telling yourself? 
• Is a memory or scenario or particular feeling, smell, taste, or tradition involved?
• If you can, write out the memory or emotions you feel along with any sensory memories.
• The act of naming your emotions, looking at your memories, owning and remembering your experiences, can diffuse the stress of the trauma over time.

You are not permanently defined by your past overreactions. You can heal. Trauma and abuse wound us, teaching us how to act and convincing us that we don’t deserve better than what we have now. Healing is the way we escape. #buildalifeworthliving #takecareofyourself #loveyourself