As a young mother, I learned that discipline equals force. Squash that behavior now!! I regret this since it wasn’t my intention to be cruel. I was conflicted even then and tried to mix in gestures of love. In my day, the methods were strict and controlling.

In my life today, I ask how I feel. Or, how does this activity affect my mood? Sometimes, I notice panic. Or feel anxious. What if I can’t make it? Control. I step away from the situation, stop pressuring, and realize that I can ask, and that is all.

I’m unsure of your process, whether you’re a parent or a boss, but I would like to know. Do you have a technique for winning? Is the word winning in your vocabulary? How do you avoid tricks or manipulation? Do you talk to your children?

I have questions.

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